tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post8429707181499636309..comments2023-05-13T13:00:30.240+10:00Comments on Lavender & Twill : ༺ Thoughts On Blogging and ‘The Taste Gap’༻Lavender and Twillhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06331125027969557539noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-87146296163965332632015-07-27T12:52:19.039+10:002015-07-27T12:52:19.039+10:00Oh, I'm sorry to hear you've not been feel...Oh, I'm sorry to hear you've not been feeling well. I hope you get better soon! It's always hard when we have stuff that we want to do, but don't have that ability to get it done.Bonita Vearhttp://www.lavenderandtwill.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-62908448463408413382015-07-27T12:37:19.155+10:002015-07-27T12:37:19.155+10:00Great post, Bonita! I can totally relate as lately...Great post, Bonita! I can totally relate as lately I've been ill and so haven't really had the time or energy to craft or take photos - but I don't want to leave my blog empty throughout winter, so up go the not so perfect pictures and not so inspired writing. But, all practice is good practice, so I guess even the non perfect blog posts help us move forward!Lisa Blackhttp://teaandcraft.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-60254880268614885252015-07-26T20:34:58.246+10:002015-07-26T20:34:58.246+10:00Ahh ~ oh thank you! Er, does that mean there's...Ahh ~ oh thank you! Er, does that mean there's another email from you that slipped through the net? Oh gosh, I'm so embarrassed... And I'm so sorry for any inconvenience I caused you!Bonita Vearhttp://www.lavenderandtwill.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-78983299337843585192015-07-26T19:09:27.634+10:002015-07-26T19:09:27.634+10:00Side note - but just to make sure you get the mess...Side note - but just to make sure you get the message - I'm going to pop that maroon pillbox in the post this week for you to borrow! It would look perfect titled on a cute angle! :)Tanithhttp://tanithrowan.blogpost.com.au/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-6295420847276563482015-07-26T18:03:20.119+10:002015-07-26T18:03:20.119+10:00I really dislike that people do that ~ really what...I really dislike that people do that ~ really what business is it of theirs? For all they know, it could just be your style choice!Bonita Vearhttp://www.lavenderandtwill.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-60634125451939622015-07-26T17:58:40.081+10:002015-07-26T17:58:40.081+10:00Agh, sunlight and shadow!! Crazy mixed lighting is...Agh, sunlight and shadow!! Crazy mixed lighting is not my favorite ~ it's almost as hard to work with it as straight bright light! Or indoors. Now that's a killer. That's my one complete fail set of outfit pics. It was an indoor setting in winter, and it did NOT turn out at all. <br /><br /><br />I hear you on the magazine quality though Cici. I don't know if I'm nuts, but I'm always trying for that 'editorial' feel, mixed with a vintage look, and seen through a diary kind of lens... Ha! <br /><br /><br />It doesn't always make sense, but I know what I am aiming for so that's a starting point I guess. :P<br /><br /><br />And thank you lovely, I think your photos are gorgeous too. :DBonita Vearhttp://www.lavenderandtwill.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-52846818994900540312015-07-26T17:52:31.142+10:002015-07-26T17:52:31.142+10:00An excellent point indeed Jessica! I think quality...An excellent point indeed Jessica! I think quality certainly rules over quantity, and that's something I've tried to stick to through all my years{!} of blogging. I don't want to create a crazy schedule I feel like I have to stand by ~ I try to go by the guidelines of "If I have a story to tell, or something to say, I'll post; if I don't or can't post for whatever reason, I'll just have to let it go and not try to throw up some 'filler' post for no reason." <br /><br /><br />Well, sometimes I've done a filler anyway ~ those kinds of posts do have their place. But I guess it all comes back to that balance. Keeping the quality, but trying not to only do it if it's perfect. Posting regularly, but not too often, etc. It's all a balance, and what works for some definitely won't work for others. :)Bonita Vearhttp://www.lavenderandtwill.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-21922544372850325722015-07-26T17:47:48.203+10:002015-07-26T17:47:48.203+10:00I do love that thought Jessica ~ certainly the per...I do love that thought Jessica ~ certainly the personal aspect of this blog that I adore is the time capsule effect. Being able to look back on your journey, and the way your family is growing and how life is changing ~ that is so much fun. It's definitely something that motivates me to keep going.Bonita Vearhttp://www.lavenderandtwill.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-75790983001955565662015-07-26T17:46:19.798+10:002015-07-26T17:46:19.798+10:00Schedules and deadlines might be a total pain, but...Schedules and deadlines might be a total pain, but on the other hand, they do keep pushing you to keep moving! I like that aspect, because otherwise my perfectionism would take over and I'd never get anything done. <br /><br /><br />Thank you for the sweet words Tanith, they are very encouraging. :)Bonita Vearhttp://www.lavenderandtwill.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-44706189714791649012015-07-26T16:21:45.842+10:002015-07-26T16:21:45.842+10:00Me too! And where am I at now? No photos of smilin...Me too! And where am I at now? No photos of smiling with teeth either and wearing braces for two years in my late 20s (i.e. I'm wearing them right now!!). Oh if I could but go back to my younger self and give her a slap... It's so rude of people to leave nasty comments about how you choose to smile though. I am only surprised I haven't had any of those yet!CiCi Mariehttp://www.cici-marie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-60749972613501796602015-07-26T16:18:47.120+10:002015-07-26T16:18:47.120+10:00Yes to everything you've said! Like Jessica, I...Yes to everything you've said! Like Jessica, I've only failed to share one set of photos so far - and that was because my blogger side couldn't stand them as well as my artistic side ;) but the rest of the time, the reason I get enough photos I'm just about happy with is because I take about 200 per session and I stick to poses I know work for me! The second I try something new it won't work and I end up with more like 300. I did a shoot yesterday, for example, and it was in the 300 zone because I was so unhappy with the lighting that we kept moving to different spots. I couldn't share some that were in shadow and some that were in bright sunlight, so each time I started again!! I'm definitely a horrendous perfectionist anyway and blogging brings out the worst side of me in that respect. I'm glad I'm not the only one that struggles with being 'good enough' - the stupid thing is that anything we do is, really, because we've done it and it's our blogs! But that doesn't stop me feeling like I should be magazine quality... Anyway, I always think your photography is fab so whatever you're doing it's working for you :) xCiCi Mariehttp://www.cici-marie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-74929028305324543242015-07-26T01:34:02.145+10:002015-07-26T01:34:02.145+10:00I think the petticoat looks great, to be honest! I...I think the petticoat looks great, to be honest! I know it's not very period appropriate, but a tiny peek of a pretty petti is nothing to be embarrassed about.<br />I also have the same voice in my head when it comes to creating the best possible pictures vs. just having something to put up. Lately, I've found myself coming down on the side of not posting as often, but always feeling like what I come up with is something that I really love. When I first started blogging, I spread myself a bit thin, and valued posting consistently over posting quality content. Not to say that you can't do both, there are a lot of bloggers out there who manage it quite well, but like you said, it's all about finding a balance and closing the gap.<br />But anyway, I always think your posts are lovely! Your photography has a beautiful, dreamy quality, and your writing is very thoughtful.zellamaybenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-35846657514343875392015-07-25T18:03:48.927+10:002015-07-25T18:03:48.927+10:00Oh, crooked clothing and awkward posing! (ಠ_ಠ) ...Oh, crooked clothing and awkward posing! (ಠ_ಠ) I always have to check back on the photos as I am doing the shoot ~ I've learnt the hard way that if I don't, something will be wrong, like my dress will be sitting funny, or none of the poses I tried actually 'worked' like I thought they would, etc.<br /><br />The Mister and I don't always have the same view of what consists of a good photo... And my tripod gives no feedback whatsoever! :P <br /><br />I can understand not feeling comfortable smiling. For the record, I don't like how my eye squinch up and disappear when I'm smiling. I've learned to become more comfortable with it now, because I've realized that people like seeing a 'true' smile and they won't see the same things that you do when you do smile for real. <br /><br />That being said, I think that there's absolutely nothing wrong with anyone smiling just how they like too. I think your pictures are always super lovely, and very elegant ~ you remind me very much of a 1940's film star. I don't think I have seen any of them smiling like crazy either. :) ♡<br /><br />I love the way that you pick the most perfect locations to match your outfits, it always gives the whole photo shoot such a dreamy "Art Nouveau" feel. Your posts are always a favorite of mine! ♡ ♡ ♡Bonita Vearhttp://www.lavenderandtwill.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-22814863530975467072015-07-25T17:50:22.049+10:002015-07-25T17:50:22.049+10:00I know what you mean Gina ~ there's that trick...I know what you mean Gina ~ there's that tricky, "Oh, why do you need *more* photos?" aspect to blogging which can be a bit hard to answer. I'm always taking a ton of photos to be able to whittle it down; it can take me up to an hour to get enough photos! <br /><br /><br />And yes, more photos generally means you find a "good" collection of pictures to use. Like a I mentioned ~ I will take between 200 - 500 photos before I think I have enough to pick out six or seven for the post.Bonita Vearhttp://www.lavenderandtwill.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-47283588594263670402015-07-25T14:20:08.359+10:002015-07-25T14:20:08.359+10:00Don't worry, I think that here your petticoat ...Don't worry, I think that here your petticoat looks a lot like an eyelet-y kind of intentional trim on this dress and is very, very pretty. <br /><br />In all the years that I've been posting outfit photos, there's only been one full shoot that I didn't share, and that was because the photos turned out to be way, way too low light and the dress I was wearing wayyyyyy too big for me - bad combo, I promise you. However, I've certainly wrestled with the very points that you discussed countless times and usually try to let the family historian + scrapbooker + blogger in me win out and that is to say, I tell myself that documenting the moment, even if it didn't look as glam/pretty/perfect/thin(ner) weight/ideal lighting/best weather conditions/etc is more important than if I the photos themselves look like they could grace the pages of Vogue. I'll never be that young again, never relive that moment, never get that tomorrow back, so why not just celebrate it - proverbial warts - and all and let my writing try to add more sparkle when I feel photos might be lacking it for whatever reason. It isn't always easy - I'm very self critical, too - but I've never yet regretted it and hope that I never will. <br /><br />Tons of hugs & understanding,<br />♥ JessicaJessica Cangianohttps://www.etsy.com/shop/ChronicallyVintagenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-31285997406116084882015-07-25T11:26:02.955+10:002015-07-25T11:26:02.955+10:00I just had to say that I had a braces-refusing-tan...I just had to say that I had a braces-refusing-tantrum in high school too and I also regret it and hate smiling in photos! Oh, young me with her wannabe-feminist opinions!Tanithhttp://tanithrowan.blogpost.com.au/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-56888764527333734962015-07-25T11:25:12.559+10:002015-07-25T11:25:12.559+10:00Yes, all those voices are in my head too! Perfecti...Yes, all those voices are in my head too! Perfectionism is such a thing to struggle with, and I have found that in all aspects of my work and life, currently with both my actual creations and the photos and the blog posts...<br /><br /><br /> And when you have a schedule for posting, even if you set it for yourself, you end up having to use material you are not 100% happy with. Most people won't notice, though, I suspect! I think that your photos are in general of a very high standard compared to a lot of blogs, so even if they aren't what you want, they are very very good!Tanithhttp://tanithrowan.blogpost.com.au/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-8818305737563803692015-07-25T08:17:12.812+10:002015-07-25T08:17:12.812+10:00Ahhh I found this post extremely cathartic! I alwa...Ahhh I found this post extremely cathartic! I always wonder how much effort goes into other bloggers posts when it comes to taking photos. I always have the feeling that most people just take photos in a matter of 5 mins and look stunning in every single photo... For me, a lot of the time when we take photos I end up looking through them and seeing that my belt is sitting way off to the side, or I'm standing badly, or that they are out of focus/camera angel is skewed.<br /><br />I always stress about how my face looks in photos because I don't have a nice smile, and I've had nasty comments before saying I look bad because I never do a toothy grin with all 32 of my teeth showing. I really regret having a tantrum in highschool and refusing to get bracers! But yes, it's comforting to know that there are other bloggers out there who have a tricky time taking photos too. Your photography is always BEAUTIFUL and I enjoy everything you post, so in my eyes you could do no wrong :) And of course, we are our own worst critics!Harlownoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5741326369951948258.post-54315095022305202702015-07-25T07:05:28.327+10:002015-07-25T07:05:28.327+10:00Excellently written Bonita! And I can totally fee...Excellently written Bonita! And I can totally feel what you are saying. About everything. The pictures that were taken of me at the capitol on Monday weren't my favorite. Sometimes, I feel so self conscious having my pictures taken (a lot of them...my mom totally understands why I do it) as I feel like people are thinking "Ugh...there she goes again, having her picture taken". But I have learned that the more pics you take, the better the chance you get of getting a couple of good ones. And I want good pictures to post on my blog. My mom is the best photographer! I also get what you mean in the struggle of your perfectionist self and your creative self. And then there is the no post = bad, etc... Ugh...it is a struggle isn't it? Anyway, I totally "get" what you wrote here! Thank you!<br />Blessings!<br />GinaGina White (Beauty from Ashes)noreply@blogger.com